Where Do Friends Go?
One of the downsides to having friendships online is that sometimes friends simply vanish. Things happen in life. We all get busy. Our computers break. We get sick. What I hate most of all is when they say, "I'm just too busy for you".
Hey, that's life. It's not pleasant, but things move on. It just amazes me that one day a friend can say, "I will always make time for you", and then suddenly it changes to "I can't be bothered to even write you an email".
It's a good thing I'm not a paranoid person. I'd wonder what I'd done to offend, but in the latest case, I'm 99.9% certain that I haven't done anything wrong. I'm still sad to think that I've lost a very good friend.
Hey, that's life. It's not pleasant, but things move on. It just amazes me that one day a friend can say, "I will always make time for you", and then suddenly it changes to "I can't be bothered to even write you an email".
It's a good thing I'm not a paranoid person. I'd wonder what I'd done to offend, but in the latest case, I'm 99.9% certain that I haven't done anything wrong. I'm still sad to think that I've lost a very good friend.
posted by Melinda at 12/08/2005 10:09:00 am
8 Comments:
It is sad, but people change and move on. I've found online friendships to be some of the most transient at times. But on the other hand some of my closest friends started off as "online" - you can be a lot more open and find out more about each other in such a short time compared to"real-life" friends. And if that works, it often works for a looooong time.
Remind me to introduce you to my bridesmaid Sarah next spring - we've only met in person twice in a friendship spanning 10 years. Yet the fact that she's flying all the way from Australia jut because I asked her to says something ;-)
It's just the way of the internet, I suppose. This isn't the first time I've lost touch with someone I met online, but I was feeling a bit sad about the latest case because we had been so close. It inspired me to blog.
I've ended up with some really good "real world" friends via the internet though. I suppose we'd have probably met at some point for karting or other club events, but we might never have realised how close we live to each other or have gotten to know each other without the forum! :-)
::sigh:: That sucks. :( ::hug::
But, yes, I'd agree with Kate. Online friendships can be amongst the most transient, unfortunately. Even so, however, they do seem to have something about them that facilitates people getting to know one another much quicker (provided, of course, that both are being truthful).
As you know, Mel, I met my ex online, but the fact that she's now my ex, well, that doesn't necessarily say there was anything bad about the fact that we had met that way. After all, our marriage did last a little longer than average. I've heard the average is about 7 years, and our divorce came through just shy of our 9th anniversary (although we were just beyond the 7 year mark when she decided to file for the divorce).
And now I'm involved in another relationship that started online. And not just online, but long distance. Long distance? Heh. Try TransAtlantic! :D Speaking of which, as you know, she crossed the Atlantic not that long ago, when we were still just friends, and that's how it grew from just friends to serious romantic relationship, and I'm liking this one so much more than the previous, too!!! :D
I know it's hard, Mel, but you'll find other friends, on- or offline. If nothing else, you've got me to abuse! :P
Oh, I know. I'm think I was inspired to blog more by my sadness that it happened than anything else. I've lost touch with other friends I've made online, but those friendships didn't seem as close as this one. You and I have talked about this (well, emailed about it), so you know the particular circumstances. This post was aimed at one specific person, though I didn't want to name names. ;-)
I have absolutely no idea whom you're talking about. ;-)
That's a shame. I thought maybe you could beat his ass for me. ;-)
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You could always beat it your own self... using Tae Kwan Do!!! You know, tie his ass up until he kwies for mercy, then beat him into a shapeless mass of dough. Tie Kwy Dough! :P :D LOL
There. That version is far better,... I think. :P
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