What a Week ...
Sorry I've been away for a bit ... Last Thursday night I went to a classmate's 21st birthday party in Sheffield, and when it was time for us to go clubbing, I started feeling unwell, so I tried to drive myself home to Chesterfield, got worse, and ended up going straight to A&E (Accident and Emergency, or the emergency room). Turns out my gall bladder not only flared up, but it was really badly infected from all the gall stones in it, so I was in hospital until Wednesday. They gave me lots of nice morphine, but they didn't take my gall bladder out, firstly because it was too infected to operate, and secondly because there is a waiting list for people who want that kind of operation, so I have to wait a few months for that. Gotta love the NHS. You don't have to pay for treatment, but you have to wait ages for anything to be done. If I had private insurance or any money, I could be recovering from surgery right now.
It was a bit scary at first because of not having my family close by (or even in this country), but I didn't have to go through it alone. My ex-husband and his wife not only went with me to A&E, they visited, brought me things I needed, brought the kids to see me, and took care of all four of my kids, even the two who aren't my ex's! I was really touched by that, more than they know. I don't think I could have made it without them.
My friends from uni were brilliant as well. I had messages from most of my close friends, and Laura (the girl who had the 21st birthday party) said if I stayed in much longer she'd not only come see me, but she threatened to bring me grapes! But best of all, Rich kept me half-sane by keeping in touch every day and coming to see me during visiting hours. He even brought me a box of chocolates, even if he did nick one of the two Fudges in the box -- turns out they're his favourite as well as mine. His mum even said she'd give me a lift when I was discharged if I had no other way home (which made me feel really good since I always miss my mum and love knowing someone else has one as thoughtful as my own), but the ex picked me up, risking a parking ticket in the process! Since I was discharged, Rich has been a sort of minder, making sure I don't over-do it and checking on me regularly. Shame no one was acting as a minder for him last night since he has a nice hangover today! It's self-inflicted so I have no pity for him. Well, maybe a bit. I'd rather have a hangover than abdominal pain.
While I was in hospital, I received an official divorce petition, so Simon has started the ball rolling on that. I laughed my head off at the grounds for divorce because there's very little in it that's true -- though the bit about me taking care of my own children is right, and he did get the degree I'm studying for right as well -- but if it makes him happy to believe what it says, I'm not going to argue. I did realise that when it said I formed an "association" with a male classmate when I was in Brussels, it was right to a degree. It's called friendship, and I'm glad of it. It's turning out to be one of the best friendships of my life so I will never regret it.
Today Rich took me (I have no car at the moment and probably shouldn't be driving anyway) to see my new solicitor, and I think I found a good one. She's nice and friendly and seems to know what she's doing. Of course since he's planning on becoming a solicitor after we finish uni, Rich was interested in what's going on with my divorce, and he did take his opportunity to discuss the LPC and training contracts with my new solicitor. The cheeky git. Still, knowing him as I do, I fully expected him to do just that. It's one reason why I took him with me. Might as well get as much info and make contacts while he can.
I've lost some more weight, as is to be expected. For the first time in recent history, I'm below 10 stone. When I weighed this morning, I came in at 9 stone 12 pounds!
Hey, thanks to everyone who took the quiz! It's funny how people who have known me the longest scored lower than that those I've become friends with more recently! Still, with some of the questions, I'm sure that's to be expected. I would like to know who "Secret Admirer" is though ... He/she got 100% correct!
It was a bit scary at first because of not having my family close by (or even in this country), but I didn't have to go through it alone. My ex-husband and his wife not only went with me to A&E, they visited, brought me things I needed, brought the kids to see me, and took care of all four of my kids, even the two who aren't my ex's! I was really touched by that, more than they know. I don't think I could have made it without them.
My friends from uni were brilliant as well. I had messages from most of my close friends, and Laura (the girl who had the 21st birthday party) said if I stayed in much longer she'd not only come see me, but she threatened to bring me grapes! But best of all, Rich kept me half-sane by keeping in touch every day and coming to see me during visiting hours. He even brought me a box of chocolates, even if he did nick one of the two Fudges in the box -- turns out they're his favourite as well as mine. His mum even said she'd give me a lift when I was discharged if I had no other way home (which made me feel really good since I always miss my mum and love knowing someone else has one as thoughtful as my own), but the ex picked me up, risking a parking ticket in the process! Since I was discharged, Rich has been a sort of minder, making sure I don't over-do it and checking on me regularly. Shame no one was acting as a minder for him last night since he has a nice hangover today! It's self-inflicted so I have no pity for him. Well, maybe a bit. I'd rather have a hangover than abdominal pain.
While I was in hospital, I received an official divorce petition, so Simon has started the ball rolling on that. I laughed my head off at the grounds for divorce because there's very little in it that's true -- though the bit about me taking care of my own children is right, and he did get the degree I'm studying for right as well -- but if it makes him happy to believe what it says, I'm not going to argue. I did realise that when it said I formed an "association" with a male classmate when I was in Brussels, it was right to a degree. It's called friendship, and I'm glad of it. It's turning out to be one of the best friendships of my life so I will never regret it.
Today Rich took me (I have no car at the moment and probably shouldn't be driving anyway) to see my new solicitor, and I think I found a good one. She's nice and friendly and seems to know what she's doing. Of course since he's planning on becoming a solicitor after we finish uni, Rich was interested in what's going on with my divorce, and he did take his opportunity to discuss the LPC and training contracts with my new solicitor. The cheeky git. Still, knowing him as I do, I fully expected him to do just that. It's one reason why I took him with me. Might as well get as much info and make contacts while he can.
I've lost some more weight, as is to be expected. For the first time in recent history, I'm below 10 stone. When I weighed this morning, I came in at 9 stone 12 pounds!
Hey, thanks to everyone who took the quiz! It's funny how people who have known me the longest scored lower than that those I've become friends with more recently! Still, with some of the questions, I'm sure that's to be expected. I would like to know who "Secret Admirer" is though ... He/she got 100% correct!
posted by Melinda at 3/24/2006 03:39:00 pm
5 Comments:
Sorry to hear you've not been good Mel but glad to hear you're now at home.
I hope that the solicitor will get things sorted for you - I'm sure she'll be fine.
Speak to you soon
Lana
Thanks Lana! I guess you can work out why I haven't been around the forum lately. :-) Between moving, kids, solicitors, uni, hospital ... I wonder how I keep my sanity!
You are going to Silverstone this year, aren't you, Lana? Hope so, would be nice to see you there!
(Okay, those of you who want to say "what sanity?", just button it!)
I'm not going to Silverstone this year I'm afraid - can't afford it at this point in time as I'm going to Oz. If I win the lottery tonight I may be there!
Don't worry about not coming on the forum - just make sure that you and the kids are ok - I'm sure it will all turn out ok!
Hi ya luv!
Didn't realise you don't have a car at the moment.Not much use me having txt'd you to see if you wanted to pop for a drink here then. Did you get that message? Anyway, Dominics been poorly but ok now and was really chuffed to here you've not moved too far away!
See you soon, Marie xx
Glad to hear you're out of hospital now, Mel.
And you're below 10 stone? What are you trying to do? Arrange it so you can blow away with the slightest breeze? :P
I'm about to put meself on a decent diet. A bad back that's flared up recently, as well as a surprise at my most recent blood pressure reading told me it was time I stopped being bloody lazy! I don't need any of that crap!
Take care of yourself!
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